Gay fat man
It Gets Better, Unless You're Fat
So I was surprised to encounter scholarship about Bears which described them as rejecting or excluding fat men. The Bearspace report unearthed certain themes around the Bear male experience in the UK. Some of this was due to anti-fat abuse or looks from others, but there was also an issue around feeling self-conscious as a plus-size man 'standing out' among thinner bodies.
Size Matters
But the stereotype of the gay obsession with body image and a six-pack is not unfounded. There is a widely held understanding that being gay means maintaining a certain standard of physical beauty, with very little room for deviation from the norm. I can't speak for all gay men, but I can tell you what I have faced as an overweight gay man.